Introvert Success

Introversion is not a bug, it's a feature.

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You don’t have to have it all figured out in order to lead

One thing that bugged me for a long time was people that started to lead even though they weren’t experts yet.

They just became super enthusiastic about things, started talking about it a lot and all of a sudden people would take their opinions seriously.

And there I was, having a lot more experience in the subject but because I was aware of how little I knew I would not feel entitled to be a leader.

Now I know that there are always people who have less experience than you and that it’s ok to be a leader without being the absolute expert on the subject.

The introvert ideal

I had a realisation recently about the extent to which I’ve been indoctrinated in to the ‘extrovert ideal’ paradigm.

I’ve been thinking about how to progress in my work.

The standard path is to move in to a management position.

Taking on a leadership position, managing people etc.

Which in practice means more meetings, more talking, more time and energy wasted on admin and busy work.

For a time I believed that was just part of being an adult and developing a career.

But then I thought about the achievements that I’m most proud of and that satisfy my authentic self.

All those things I achieved on my own. No meetings, no discussions, no team-work.

Just me in a room working on the projects from start to completion.

And the results made me immensely proud and brought me positive responses from around the world.

So why do I feel like I need to become a rounded personality and live up to an ideal when all that does is waste my precious time?

Time that I could be spending on producing more outstanding work.

I should be focusing my energy on becoming the best introvert I can be in stead of trying to be a poor extrovert.

Conversational minimalism

Sometimes I feel like I’ve said too much.

Not that I said something wrong.

Rather that too many words left my mouth and I could have gotten by with a lot less.

There’s nothing wrong with that.

It’s ok the be a conversational minimalist.

Don’t feel the need to keep up with pop-culture

I sometimes hear people saying they feel like they need to keep up with pop-culture to avoid feeling left out.

There’s absolutely no need for this.

Your time is precious and should only spend it on activities you enjoy.

So what do you do when someone asks you if you watched X – episode of Y show, or Z – movie?

You say: “No, tell me about it”.

If you want go a step further you can also share what you are into.

But be careful not to come across as someone who is trying too hard to be different.

Just keep it low-key and nonchalant.

Balance your interests and activities

You only have a certain amount of hours in the week to dedicate to interests outside of your work.

So you need to take time to think about your hobbies and interests and how they affect the overall balance of energy you feel throughout the week.

Consider which activities drain your energy and which leave you recharged.

And also consider which activities give you both or complement each other in some way.

Over the years I’ve evaluated everything I do to get the maximum benefits.

I know I need to do activities that help increase my knowledge, feed my need for creativity, allow me to exercises and socialise while not completely draining me.

An example of set of activities that give me all of these could be:

1. Rock climbing: Exercise + alone time, but also the opportunity to meet and socialise with other rock climbers if you choose to.

2. Reading: Increasing knowledge + alone time to recharge.

3. Stand up comedy: Being creative, requires practice at home but also has an element where you need to go out and perform.

Learn to manage your energy and focus it on activities that help you cover all the areas of your life that you want to engage in.